The Abbey Bans Bachelorette Parties

Trendy Boystown bar is banning bachelorette parties from its premises, saying the parties flaunt marriage inequality in the face of gays and lesbians.

is saying “I don’t” to bachelorette parties.

Calling it an offensive heterosexual tradition that flaunts marriage inequality in the face of gays and lesbians, the trendy Boystown bar is now banning bachelorette parties from its premises. 

“Every Friday and Saturday night, we’re flooded with requests from straight girls in penis hats who want to ogle our go-gos, dance with the gays and celebrate their pending nuptials. They are completely unaware that the people around them are legally prohibited from getting married,” Abbey founder David Cooley said in a press statement.

While bachelorette parties are banned, The Abbey, which has been named the Best Gay Bar in the World by MTV’s Logo, will continue to welcome straight people.

“Over the past 22 years, The Abbey has been a place that accepts everyone, gay, straight, lesbian, transgender, bisexual and everything in between,” Cooley said. “We love our straight girlfriends and they are welcome here, just not for bachelorette parties.”

It has long been a policy at The Abbey to deny admission to groups in costume, including bachelorette regalia. Bachelorette parties had previously been allowed inside if they removed their costumes.  

The Abbey’s bachelorette ban comes on the heels of a ban on gay marriage in North Carolina.  

The Abbey is also encouraging other gay-owned and operated establishments to institute their own bans as a sign of solidarity until marriage is legal everywhere for everyone.

Wesley McDowell May 25, 2012 at 02:12 PM
The Abbey is a gay bar? Wow, coulda fooled me. Every time I go there I feel like I'm a gay guy in a straight club. They seem to want to have it both ways (no pun intended). It does seem like they could have chosen a better way to express the issue of marriage equality. My guess is this is the public reason but the real reason is likely something else. By the way 91607, heterosexuals are not losing their right to marriage just because they can't have a party at The Abbey.
Todd Bianco May 25, 2012 at 03:23 PM
I was surprised to learn that The Abbey was still considered a gay bar. At least half of the bartenders - male and female - are straight. I was just there for a birthday party on a busy Friday night and aside from our terrific, cute waiter, it was hard to tell it was a gay bar. I'm sympathetic to the issue of "flaunting their heterosexuality" and their for-granted civil rights in our faces; however, what triggered this "new policy" after the fact that there have been bachelorette parties at The Abbey for years. Maybe when they book these events, maybe management can remind them of the "no penis hat" policy. But why not take their money? The money from those expensive drinks can go a long way to buying political clout, which, after all, is how it's done in the U.S.
Trackies May 25, 2012 at 06:31 PM
Women are notoriously AWFUL tippers. It is unlikely that they are losing any money at all from banning these types of parties. It seems that the Abbey wants to attract the type of people who actually pour money into it, and who actually made it cool in the first place: Gay men! As for all all of you whose hearts bleed for the poor, poor heterosexuals, go suck a dick! Do you think we are welcome in all straight bars?!
Rosemary May 26, 2012 at 12:08 AM
This bar must be forced to offer a service (to a select group of people) that it doesn't want to offer - because the heterosexual community demands it. The desire for slavery is alive and well within the heterosexual community. Perhaps you can force the bar to offer pedicures and manicures while you're at it.
Rosemary May 26, 2012 at 12:33 AM
"My best friend's sister's boyfriend's brother's girlfriend heard from this guy who knows this kid who's going with the girl who saw Ferris pass out at 31 Flavors last night. I guess it's pretty serious." Serious, indeed. Because no longer hosting bachelorette parties - a service offered to heterosexual women by many other businesses - is completely the same as denying an entire group of citizens marriage equality.


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