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Moms Talk Q&A: Childcare Choices

Sound-off with our Moms Council about this week's hot topic: what choices did you make for childcare and why?

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So grab a cup of coffee and settle in as we start the conversation today:

What choice(s) did you make for childcare with your young child or when your adult child was younger and why? Nanny vs. nanny share vs. daycare vs. stay at home, etc.

Was the decision you made the one you'd always thought you would? For Example: Did you always plan to stay-at-home, but decided to go back to work or vice versa?

Judith Bunnell March 30, 2011 at 01:16 PM
I was telling my daughter (now 16) about leaving her for the first time at daycare when she was about 15 months old and how she screamed and turned red and how my heart broke but I kept on walking to work. Man, those are the moments that are seared in my memory and I roll over in my mind even now...My husband and I loved what we do...and to be honest I was bored at home...but it was gruesome! And don't get me started about rushing to pick her up before closing or paying a fine per minute!
Judith Bunnell March 30, 2011 at 02:06 PM
I think the hardest part of the daycare/afterschool shuffle was when she realized that there were kids who di not go to daycare or afterschool. That happened in about First Grade and she asked me "why can't you be a stay-at-home mom?" Ouch!
Judith Bunnell March 30, 2011 at 02:53 PM
We finally got a "nanny" in 4 th grade...I hesitate to use that term because Saraa great student picked up my daughter afterschool got her a snack and then drove her to a classs or took her on some adventure until I got home about 6 pm. My daughter hated afterschool programs in elementary school because she felt overloaded with all the kids and chaos so the "nanny" solution worked but was expensive..
Guiomar Barbi Ochoa March 30, 2011 at 04:05 PM
I never thought I'd work once I had children. Living in DC and with the economy the way that it is, we didn't have a choice. We have an AMAZING nanny who takes wonderful care of our daughter. It's been hard leaving her but I've actually realized I wasn't meant to be a stay at home mom. In my ideal world, I'd just work part-time but we just can't afford that, financially. I do feel guilty sometimes but I also know she's being taken care of and loved. I'm also lucky in that my mother takes over at 3:30 every day. I'm home by 5, so she's at least with someone from the family from 3:30 on. It's not what I expected but nothing seems to turn out the way you expect in life
Jennifer Perry March 30, 2011 at 06:17 PM
I think the decision to stay-at-home, work, nanny or day care is such a deeply personal choice, dictated by the unique factors facing each family. When my husband and I decided to have kids, we really wanted one of us to be home with the kids. We didn't know who would be the one, but initially we had planned on having him be the stay-at-home parent. However, when I was pregnant with my first son, I ended up being laid off and so I ended up staying at home. It was quite fortunate however, because once I was home, I never wanted to go back with each child that came after. After my first daughter was born, I started my own business and did some independent consulting, always working in the evening or on weekends. I never wanted to give up the time during the day with the kids. However as #3 and #4 came, I just simply couldn't handle the workload. We have definitely had to make choices financially, like staying in a smaller house, or cutting out certain things like cable, eating out, etc. because we're on one income, but I don't regret it all. I feel fortunate that I'm able be with them during the day and right after school. I feel like its the right choice for our family.
Guiomar Barbi Ochoa March 30, 2011 at 09:20 PM
Jennifer is right...it is such a personal decision. Every family does was it right for them. I have friends who wanted to stay home but missed working too much. And I have friends who never saw themselves leaving the workforce but did so immediately after having children. Every decision is separate and personal...be it financial, social or otherwise.
Judith Bunnell March 30, 2011 at 10:27 PM
I will say there is a financial cost to women who chose to stay home especially in this economy...it is hard to re-enter the workforce and employers are really suspicious that you will not be serious or will leave again. I feel like I was told "I could have it all..." now I realize that I made choices and each choice has a price....

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