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Moms Talk Q&A: Tantrums in Public

Sound-off with our Moms Council about this week's hot topic: tantrums in public.

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So grab a cup of coffee and settle in as we start the conversation today:

How do you address bad behavior in public when it comes to kids?

Whether its over a piece of candy, a new toy or absolutely NEEDING those designer jeans, how do you manage tantrums?

Alternately: what do you think/what have you done when someone else's child was the source of drama?

Lola Wanno April 06, 2011 at 01:56 PM
It was hideous. I cannot imagine intervening in that manner without taking the time to assess a situation rationally. Furthermore, if you feel the need to get involved, wouldn't it be more appropriate to say to the mother "are you okay?/Is everything okay?" rather than accuse her of abuse? It also felt racially motivated as my child is very European looking and I am not. He contested my son's parentage when I confirmed that he is my child. Ultimately, anyone with a child can discern between a child in pain and a meltdown. This vile loser told me he has 5 children! I would guess he has never even been on a date.
Judith Bunnell April 06, 2011 at 01:59 PM
CraZY! The worst encounter I had was when my daughter was little and prone to "barf" alot....I was holding her face down towards a garbage can on the street and thought a security guard was going to arrest me! Then she finished and let out a big baby chuckle and wiggled to have me let her down and ran off!
Jennifer Perry April 07, 2011 at 12:54 AM
We've definitely had our fair share of tantrums in public (like the time my daughter urinated on the floor in the Safeway at the checkout on purpose, Oh the joys of motherhood!). Guiomar - I think you are right, at the age of one, its more often being tired/overstimulated than outright defiance and in that sense dealing with it usually involves removing them from the situation and lots of distraction. I try and tune everyone else out and pretend that its just me and my child. There always going to be judging eyes everywhere you turn and they only make the situation worse.
Jennifer Perry April 07, 2011 at 12:58 AM
When they do get older and it turns to defiance then I've found that I have to hold my ground. Giving in only makes the behavior worse the next time around. With the gimmes/wants, I find the put that on your birthday list or save up for it with your own money, is a way to defer requests. Usually by the time that birthday rolls around they've completely forgotten what they were asking for. With the I don't want to be where you are/I don't want to listen, I usually take away some priviledge and then make sure I follow through on it. Then when they are denied the next day - I remind them of why they aren't getting to do what they want. Also, getting down looking at them in the eyes on their level and telling them in a controlled (that's the hard part - which I often fail at) quiet voice in simple terms what they are doing wrong. Then I put on my thick skin and prepare to be embarassed. I've found the calmer I stay the shorter the tantrum and when if I give them an inch they will take that mile.
Jennifer Perry April 07, 2011 at 01:02 AM
Lola - that is just awful. I am so amazed and disgusted at what people will say to parents. Can't we just encourage each other, rather than be judgemental and presumptious? Wow.

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